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Here are some tips for dealing with your body after pregnancy and keep the spark alive:

• Check your expectations. If you were under the impression that you would slip right back into your hottest jeans right after the baby was born, have You accept that for most women, this is simply not realistic. Sure, there are the few lucky ones seen lounging by the pool in sexy bikinis three or four Weeks after the baby can be, but if you read this, you are probably not among them.

Remember, it takes time and effort back to that body. And a few pounds, plus a stretch mark or three (and a varicose vein), you should not discourage it with your partner, especially if you're in the mood. Some of these changes will fade or even disappear, but others may stay here, you have to get used to it. Chances are your partner will be so excited to be a little get action, it is not about the changes that you are possessed of care.

• Give yourself a break. You have just been through a tremendous Event that an inevitable toll on your body is required. You should feel beautiful and proud, not embarrassed or self conscious. This body of yours is a magnificent Organism that has not produced a baby. What a great gift it to you. Love yourself from the inside out, and give yourself the time and emotional space gradually back into shape.

• Remember: sex does not necessarily correlate with books. Among my friends mom was the woman with the most active sex life, one that her last was to lose a few pounds.

• Dim the lights. As basic as this tip sounds, the advice can go a long way. Turn the lights actually make you feel more comfortable. You need not fear that your partner is to take note of all your imperfections. You can only make each other feel desired Focus! To be romantic, light a scented candle and play mood music.

• If you are breastfeeding, no worries about leakage. Some women fear that their breasts leakage during sexual activity – so much so that the fear gets in the way of their libido. Wearing a nursing bra with pads can do the trick, because it solves both the problem and because it reduces anxiety about the problem.

Low sex drive

He looks at you across the table on your first night since the baby was born. He flirting, you think, but you hardly notice because you secretly been checking your Clock under the table and counted the minutes until you get home, to ensure that your baby sitter did not like the baby.

He reaches for your hand, you're still thinking about the baby. You hear something in the background, like a baby and your breasts fill with milk sounds. He tells how much he loves you and you start to leak. He is definitely trying to set the stage for a romantic and intimate Evening set and you have, on the other excuse to change your breast pad in the bathroom.

How can he think about sex, if sex the furthest thing from your Spirit? You do not have to think about sex, well, it's about, were four months. Last night, he said that he misses being with you. You begin to bad to . Feel But then you check your clock again, only fifteen minutes, you think, and then you can go home with the baby.

Why are you not in the mood (at all)?

There are so many explanations for why new mothers are not coming in the mood for sex after baby. A small Libido can be frustrating for you and your partner. But do not despair, it is a normal part of the picture. Reasons for decreased libido include:

• Fluctuating hormone levels. After the baby is, estrogen and progesterone drop, which can contribute to a decline in your sex drive, is born. If you are breastfeeding, a hormone called Prolactin is increased, leading to further suppression of the other hormone levels, and with them your sexual desire. It can take months for your hormone levels to return to their prepregnancy levels.

• fatigue. I need not say that new mothers often suffer from exhaustion. But fatigue and exhaustion can do more damage to your body than you may realize cause. Studies have shown that sleep, night after night can contribute to stress, moodiness, poor decisions, reduced immune response, and lowered sex drive.

• The concern about how your body looks. As discussed above, many women self-confident about the changes in her body during the postpartum period and are anxious that their partners still find their bodies attractive. While these feelings normally, they can get in the way to the desire for more intimate with your partner.

• Pain. Depending on the type of delivery to learn, you can Cuts that are not yet healed and still very painful. Although there is no episiotomy or cesarean section scar the perineum, or between the vaginal and rectal openings was stretched (incredible) and is probably pretty sore. For many women think of what they can in this area in the vicinity causing fear and anxiety that in turn, drastically reduce sexual desire.

• Lack of vaginal lubrication. In nursing women, elevated prolactin levels and decreased estrogen and progesterone can cause vaginal dryness. Without lubrication, sex can hurt, and as a result, women may steer away from relationships with their partners, especially while breastfeeding.

It's been six weeks and I'm definitely not ready to have sex. Is something wrong with me? Are most women, the ready at this point?

No, this is nothing wrong with you. Some women just take longer than others to be ready. I can not stress enough how everything is individualized. The decision have sex after the baby comes, is definitely not one-size-fits-all milestone. Each person is different. I knew women who had sex again directly to the six-week mark, and others do not have sex until the baby's first birthday!

Doctors recommend to wait 6 weeks because it gives the body a chance to heal. At this point most women is to stop postpartum bleeding, tears, threads and lacerations have healed, and have entered into the cervix. But that does not necessarily that you feel ready. Many womem complain of pain and aching muscles after the six-week mark. Other women deal with some of the issues we discussed earlier have. The decision on relations with your partner again entirely up to you. Do not let the six-week timeline – or pressure from your partner – dictate your decision, You have to feel comfortable, both mentally and physically.

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The above is an excerpt from the book The New Mom's Survival Guide
by Jennifer Wider, MD
Published by Bantam Books, June 2008, $ 15.00US / $ 17.00CAN; 978-0-553-80503-1
Copyright © 2008 Jennifer Wider, MD

Author Bio
Jennifer Wider, MD, a physician, author and radio personality who specializes in women's health issues. She is the medical adviser of the Society for Women's Health Research in Washington, DC Dr. Wider is a regular contributor to Cosmopolitan magazine and hosts a weekly segment on Cosmo Radio for Sirius Satellite. It has a health expert on The Today Show, CBS News, Good Day New York, Fox News, and a variety published from cable channels. She lives with her physician husband and their daughter and son, in Fairfield County, Connecticut.

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